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Tips for parents of LGBTQ (Homosexual) Youth

Updated: Jun 4, 2022

Affectionate LGBTQ Young Mommy Supporting Stressed Teen Daughter.

All the parents love their children a lot and always think for the betterment of their children, but then it comes to the lesbian, gay, bisexual transgender, or questioning child, who care more for it. When an LGBTQ youth is present in a family, a parent prioritizes making it acceptable.

Hence, that's why parents of LGBTQ youth are always in search of answers to certain questions like, "How can they make changes in their child's life to make it acceptable in society?" because most people always start bullying when they find them; different from them?

Sometimes LGBTQ youth are not being accepted in society, school or playground, but the parents are the persons who suffer along with their child a lot from all these situations. They need not worry because we have enlisted some advice that may help you to make your child get accepted in society.

12 Tips To ensure your LGBTQ Child is Safe and Happy

1. Let them know they are loved

In our society, it is often seen that most parents usually do not love or support their LGBTQ youth. Parents need first to let their children know that they are being loved and aren't any different from the people in society. If parents Love their LGBTQ child, This will act as an LGBTQ therapy and help your child survive in society and make them settle well in society even with odds as they know their parents support them no matter and that's most important to any child.

2. Encourage dialogue

It is seen that most of the LGBTQ youth are taken for granted which makes them feel disappointed and demotivated. They find it as their thoughts are not given importance by their friends, family members, and society. If parents are interested in making their children acceptable in society, they must spare some time for their children and try to talk to them. When parents talk to their children, this will let you know what problems they are suffering from? In this way, they can hunt for solutions and encourage their dialogues for more possible ways of getting close.

3. Learn the facts

When children speak to their parents, they come to know about many things, and a lot of misconceptions are eradicated. Parents need to know that this is not a phase, and there is no cure for LGBTQ children; they do not need to worry about it. The only thing they need to do is talk to their children and make sure they feel well. At the end of the day, we all are humans, and we all deserve a little love and affection, and no hatred is taking someone to get awarded by the Guinness Book of World Records.

4. Schooling services for LGBTQ

You need to know what kind of support, services, and education are in place at your child's school. You need to know if there is any straight alliance at school, a learning center, or any counselor present to make LGBTQ children settle in society.

5. Stay involved with the school

Children spent as much time in a classroom as in the house. The parents of LGBTQ children must stay in contact with their school, and they must ensure that the school they are choosing for their child is suitable for them because there is no proper care system for LGBTQ children in most schools. You need to know that either school involves you in a situation in which you must need to be involved. You need to know whether there is any issue your child is struggling with within the school, which they didn't concern to share with you.

  • Behavior change (e.g., your outgoing, sociable child is now withdrawn)

  • Discipline or behavioral problems in school

  • Declining grades

  • Unexplained absences

  • Sudden shifts in who's a friend and who's not

  • Engagement in risk behavior (e.g., drug use, new sexual partner) that is out of character for your child

Bullying is a problem everywhere you go., it is not just limited to LGBTQ children. If you see the following signs, go to the teacher, the counselor, or the school administrator. It'sIt's better if you share your concern regarding your unique child at the beginning with your child's school administration. Still, you don't have to necessarily if your child isn't ready, or you simply want to avoid any additional clashes before your child comes out to their schoolmates themself.

6. Take a team approach

Sometimes parents are fed up, and they try to go away from their child because of its condition. We advise you not to go away from your child, whether it may be a situation of nervousness or any other situation. It would be best to back up your child because they need you. Often parents say, "I can't do it." You need to remember that your child is suffering more than you, and they need you. Try to take a team approach and let them know the importance of their suggestions.

7. Ensure they form healthy relationships

Always remain in search of whom your child is meeting with, who they befriend, and where they mostly spent their time. Try to ensure that your child is not in a bad relationship with someone, or else a bad relationship may lead them to a rude behavioral manner and alone.

8. Engage with your child.

As early, it has been said; that parents do not give as much time to their children as it is needed. Try to engage with your child and take them outside for a walk, and then try to make a talk with them. Everyone in society is respectable, and there is no need for anyone to blame someone or question anyone else. The LGBTQ child must be taught that they are also respectable and very important members of the society

9. Get to know the community

Get out, look out for the community, and by that, I mean an LGBTQ community, more specifically where there are all seven colors of the rainbow with a unicorn sculpture around. And a bookstore where a collection of books is available for LGBTQ youth or any platform for LGBTQ youth. Also, search for gay/straight alliances at school or any community center for LGBTQ youth.

Search for places where LGBTQ people are meeting or their families gathering. By doing this, you will know what exactly happens when an LGBTQ Child acts a little differently and how to react. This will also help you search for why LGBT children behave in odd manners and the cure to the problems that LGBTQ people face.

10. Explore the Internet

The Internet is helping a lot for the solution of problems being faced by different people. You can also search the internet for the study of your LGBTQ child so that you can cure the problem of your child.

One of the most important websites for LGBTQ people to follow up with their research and news is the Gay Lesbian and Straight Education Network(GLSEN), and of course, 2nd is the one you're reading.

11. Encourage your child to "come out"

Always praise your child when they come to you to discuss some issue with you. It is more often seen that the LGBTQ youth suffers the fear of not getting accepted and decide not to come out to their parents. If your child came out to you with hope, asking for a solution to their problems, it is a positive sign that your child is settling and trusting you for their problems.

You know that your child needs you and your only person in this world who is thinking for his best. Other persons who will meet your child, whether they are friends or other family members, might have some questions in their minds about your child. It would be best if you prepared your child for those questions.

12. Educate yourself about LGBTQ local, state, and country laws and policies

Equip yourself with the knowledge of laws and policies of local and national governments regarding LGBTQ people in your country. You need to know about the laws and policies regarding your child. LGBTQ youth are considered second-class citizens on the national level, and some laws do not support them. Laws matter a lot, and you know you have to face them whenever you go outside. To be safe, you must educate yourself with laws.


Parents of LGBTQ youth are always hunting for solutions to problems for their children. We have enlisted a lot of things on which, if you act, you can get better results. It is a fact that LGBTQ youth are suffering a lot in society. Still, if parents help them settle in society, they can become good and responsible society members. Now, it's up to you to make them settled in the society and to make them acceptable in the community.

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